You could’ve pretty much stopped here. As a general rule we worry more about the spouse we are than the one we have. Apply that rule to all of the below. And note too that the big things like money, sex, and chores are often used as proxies for scorekeeping, which healthy couples avoid. See the spouse rule.

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