The study revealed that most women seek out information from their women’s healthcare providers. Ob-Gyn doctors earn on average $277,000 per year by spending roughly 15 minutes with each patient. If a good number of women are uncomfortable talking about sex in general, how can they possibly ask the right questions of someone with whom they spend a quarter-hour a year? What’s more, given women’s sheer ignorance regarding their own reproductive health, how would they even know the right questions to ask?
Piling on, in my discussions with OB/GYN‘s, they routinely express extreme frustration at patients not listening to them, particularly young patients. They can tell a 25-year-old woman about various fertility issues, but she doesn’t hear them because getting pregnant much less being pregnant is not a concern of hers yet. Or if she does hear, she may dismiss the concerns as the uncaring medical profession trying to scare her, medicalize pregnancy, or mansplain fertility if it is a male doc. She goes to more “women friendly” carers and/or stops asking. Then, at 30 and pregnant, or 35 and not quickly pregnant, she starts researching, realizing how little she knows, and assumes it is because she was never told.