And while most of us think of helicopter parenting in terms of coddling or indulgence, renowned educational author Alfie Kohn contends that “helicopter parenting might more accurately be described as excessive control of children” — that is, not trusting that kids are often far more capable than we give them credit for.
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I think of it as everything we do that routinely substitutes their judgment for ours.
It’s necessary for infants and tiny tots. But as they age we need to help them develop their own judgment, so that by the time they are teens, they are using their own judgment first and relying less and less on ours. Helicopter parents don’t let that growth occur. They continually substitute their own judgment for the child’s.